Friday, January 22, 2010

Should I take my daughter in for a hair relaxer yet?

My daughter is black/white. Her hair is the texture of mine (fine/thin/white persons hair), and looks like she has a spiral perm. She hates it. She wants it straight so badly that she hot irons 2-3 times a day, and now her hair is breaking off. Should I make her stop hot ironing and wait until it's healthy again to get a relaxer for her hair, or can I go ahead and have it done now? It's not a matter of whether I can or can't, but should I get her a relaxer before her hair repairs itself?Should I take my daughter in for a hair relaxer yet?
There are so many black females that will commit mass murder just to have your daughters hair texture....I for one!!!





I have seen mixed females put relaxers in their hair...and even though the hair stays long, it still breaks off, is dry, and not attractive.





Talk to various salons and cosmetologist and ask people who have similar hair texture, what do they do. Some black people who are not mixed have similar hair...ask them!!





You do have options....go to a GOOD black salon and try various methods before doing a chemical. Try roller setting her hair on BIG rollers. Once dry, wrap the hair and sit her under the dryer again for 15 min. It is called a doobie wrap...you may have to go to a black salon to get this!!





-If you must get a relaxer...make sure you DEEP CONDITION (sitting under the dryer with conditioner) the hair after EVERY relaxer process...despite what some cosmetologist tell you.


-You may not want to wash the hair daily with a relaxer...this is something to consider if she is used to washing hair daily...ask a black stylist for more info (too much to type here).


-After every wash, let the conditioner sit for 10 min.


- must get a retouch every 6-8 weeks


-NEVER USE BOX RELAXERS (the one brought out the store LIKE African Pride, Fabulaxer, Optimum, Black and beautiful, JUST FOR KIDS(that is the name of it), just to name a few).....they are made with calcium hydroxide amd cause calcium build-up. You notice this on a lot of blacks who's hair turn from black to a brown tint and when they wash it, it is not as straight as when they first got the relaxer.


*You must go to a salon that uses a relaxer with sodium hydroxide.....DESIGN ESSENTIALS, DUDLEY, NU EXPRESSIONS, MIZANI just to name a few





If you ask me....having a relaxer takes more work and money. If I had a daugter I would not let her get a relaxer until she is 16 or 17. If I had her texture I would just love to wash it and go...saves time.





SHE JUST DOES NOT KNOW HOW GOOD SHE HAS IT!!!!Should I take my daughter in for a hair relaxer yet?
consult a hairstylist.
Wait for it to heal itself. My lil sis is the same way and we still relaxed it and up to 5 inches broke off. Just wait and talk to the hair stylist.
i used to have wavy hair...and i got addicted to flat ironing it everyday to school... (i was 15 then)...after a year, i got it relaxed...it was okay... im 17 now and i get my hair relaxed about twice a year...its just fine, i had no major problems, but i have to have it treated in deep conditioning once a month...





im asian...and it wasnt really curly...maybe your daughter's case is gonna be different
No only does it depend on the condition of her hair, it also depends on her age. Most styllists will not perform a perm or relaxer for children under 12, as it may not take because their hair has not matured enough for it yet. If they do do it, you should be required to sign a waiver, and your service will probably not be guaranteed without the purchase of the proper products to care for it. That said, you should also deffinitly consult a stylist about the condition of her hair and if her hair can handle a chemical service at this time.
no its best to wait till its repaired itself, but i wudnt advise relaxing for her type of hair it might damage it unless it was really curly
how old is she if she is under 10 don't do it cause her texture will change if she is older than 11 go ahead just be causious as to what you use and how long you can seriously burn her scalp to perminant damage
Since her hair is so fine, try doing something a little different, I went through this. There are products out there for after you wash the hair, you put it on and then blowdry it...if not that, put something mild in it. I have a friend (whose hair wasn't as strong as mine) and she put something called anti-curl in hers. It's for hair like your child's sounds.

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